@darius (in my experience, you just have to resign yourself to a lot of low level guilt. i wrote a library two decades ago people still use. occasionally i maintain it, in a spurt once every few years. i get emails. occasionally i reply. i feel guilty for every nonresponse, for github issues ignored, etc. but i have a life, which the requesters have rarely sought to help support, so i let it ride, but feel guilty. ps i loved your small-social-netwoerk essay.)